English 1101

Aleisha Bird

Problems in a Romance

 Romance usually occurs in the boyfriend/girlfriend stage of a relationship. This stage can be one of the hardest to get through.  A couple has to go through problems to build the relationship and go through these problems without destroying the relationship. There are many problems that people are faced with while in a romantic relationship. Three of these problems that can potentially end the relationship are dishonesty, cheating, and abuse. The beginning of  these problems could start with a small lie.
    Dishonesty or deceit is a major problem in relationships. It usually starts when the girlfriend does something that would possibly displease her beau. For example, the girlfriend moves the remote control. It irritates the boyfriend to have the remote moved  from its proper place. When the girlfriend is confronted, she lies and says she didn't move it because she is afraid the boyfriend would get mad. Dishonesty starts with small things, until she starts to lie about more important things, such as her feelings. Once the boyfriend finds out about the small lies, he will start to question what else his girlfriend has lied about. The trust is broken, and the relationship is very unstable.
    The couple will begin to argue and maybe one of them will cheat. When the boyfriend cheats, there is a big possibility of his beau finding out. When the girlfriend  finds out, she will lose trust in the boyfriend. The couple will question their love for each other. The girlfriend may make accusations that her beau was still cheating without secure evidence. This will cause plenty of arguments where the couple will blame each other for the problems in the relationship and point out each other's faults. The relationship can turn into an abusive one.
    The couple may verbally abuse one another by lashing out at one another with insults and complaints. They may get into one another's face in a heated argument until someone is pushed or grabbed roughly. The pushes will begin the physical abuse, and it will eventually lead to punches or choking. When the physical abuse takes place, there also would be insults possibly saying, "You are a loser!" and "I would be happier with someone else."   This of course, is emotional and mental abuse. The person being abused may become depressed or suicidal, from all the forms of abuse. The abuse develops from one form  to the other in no specific order. The relationship will be completely shattered and may end with suicide or murder.
    Overall, a relationship can be ruined easily when faced with these problems. This is because the foundation of a relationship is trust. When a person lies, cheats, or abuses his or her beau this gives the beau no reason to give trust.  It takes a lot of trust, cooperation, and care to make a romantic relationship work.  When these characteristics are not present, due to the problems in the relationship, the relationship is ended.

Relationship quotes:

Assumptions are the termites of relationships.  ~Henry Winkler

Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you.  They are not perfect but are always perfect for you.  ~Author Unknown

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with.  ~Wayne W. Dyer
Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.  ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, Flight to Arras, 1942, translated from French by Lewis Galantière
Having someone wonder where you are when you don't come home at night is a very old human need.  ~Margaret Mead

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.  ~Swedish Proverb
There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west -
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
~Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Click the following links to learn more about relationships:

Six Characteristics of a Good Relationships

Healthy Relationships

Am I in a Healthy Relationship?


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